When we like or value ourselves
we assume it is because we are inherently likable or valuable.
But when we feel ashamed
we assume it is because someone is humiliating us.

When we act boldly,
we admire our inherent courage.
But when we feel frightened
we assume it is because someone is scaring us.

When we feel love
we assume we are loving, by nature.
But when we reject, ridicule or hate
we assume it is because someone is being intolerable, ridiculous or contemptible.

When we want more money
we assume it is out of legitimate need.
When we give away our goods
we assume it is because we are inherently generous.
But when we are jealous
we assume someone is hoarding and feeling superior.

We have explanations and justifications
for ourselves and those who stand with us.
We have few excuses
for those with whom we will not stand.

When others wage war
we protest war.
When we wage war
We speak of justice.